Sorry for myself? Not really. Just lacking in any tolerance whatsoever for being ill. Two years of fighting the Freeloader has left me minus any capacity for patience when my body mucks up yet again.
It's hot outside. I should be back in the lagoon, pulling out more bloody salvinia. But my body won't co-operate. I've realised that the lagoon project is a monster of fearful proportions. The idea of clearing it in one season is just ridiculous, as I found out by the end of last summer as I slipped and slid around on the increasingly treacherous mud slick beneath my feet. I finally decided that my good intentions were going to end up manifesting as a broken leg if I wasn't careful. I left it to the gods and another season, praying that the hideous stuff wouldn't grow back to such an extent that all my work was undone.
One woman working by hand just isn't going to do a job that size in one go. I need to stick at it for years, not days or months. It's an elephant waiting to be eaten- an elephant with a knowing smirk on its face, laughing internally at my pathetic little daily nibbles. And how do you eat a whole elephant?
One bite at a time, my friends. One bite at a time.
|Not an elephant. I don't have a picture of|
an elephant. But close- my puppy's dad.
This year, as the weather's turned warm enough for me to test the lagoon waters again, I've started to understand how very relevant that approach is to so many situations. Take my fitness, for example. Many a time I've whined to you all about how weak I was since chemo, how quickly my arm started to ache when I did any work, how easily I tire since radiotherapy.
And yet this year, as I drag armful after armful of heavy water weed to the bank, I realise that it's easier than last year. I'm clearing more in a session now than I did then, and I'm less pooped afterwards. It takes time to work the destruction of treatment out of your system. It's not going to happen in days or months. It takes years.
Don't expect too much too soon. One bite at a time. And stick at it.
Mind you, sometimes I'm a slow learner. One of the simple joys of life that's come along with the second mastectomy is being able to run freely for the first time since I was a child. Naturally, once I discovered that I could run I tried to swallow the full pachyderm at a single gulp. I took to walking / running for my high intensity interval training three times a week.
Sadly, though my ability to run may have returned to the days of being 12 years old, my knees have not. Soon I was in fucking agony. I had to give away the HIIT altogether for a few weeks while my joints recovered.
You're 58, idiot, and you're taking little lumps of concentrated bone degenerant every night for five years. Get a grip.
|How did I turn myself from this elephantine creature|
on the right to the silhouette in the next photo?
|Point one of a kilo at a time.|
Hard on myself, aren't I? It was ever thus.
I have to remind myself that it's the duration of the exercise per week that makes a difference to my survival, not the intensity. Half an hour walking the dogs every morning would be enough on its own. I don't have to run.
But gee it's nice to stretch out without knocking myself out with a pair of flying tits. Or even just one.
Speaking of flying, it was the second flight to Melbourne to see my plastic surgeon that brought on the lurgy. Apparently when smoking was banned on aircraft, they stopped circulating fresh air through the body of the plane and instead started recycling it to save fuel. I guess if the same germ flies past you three hundred times in two hours you're probably going to catch something sooner or later.
But I digress (cough, hack). Seeing Dr Yes was a complete pleasure. It was the CT scan he ordered afterwards that gave me the roaring heebie jeebies. Yes, sure, sure, it was just to check on the size of my abdominal blood vessels, but there's always that gremlin whispering in my ear they're going to find something else.
Fuck off, gremlin. And when you get there, fuck off some more. At this stage I've had no urgent phone calls telling me to come in immediately, so I'm guessing no Christmas lights showed up.
But back to Dr Yes. What a man.
We sat across from each other, each armed with a MacBook Air. I shot questions at him. He shot information back, complete with illustrations, and I speed-typed his answers into my document. Huzzah for the age of technology!
Yes, I'll be confined to walking only for six weeks, but he'll try to get me up out of bed the day after the operation (huzzah again- I am Not Good at lying still). No swimming in the dam till I'm fully healed (damn indeed- why did I choose to have this done in summer?). No driving for at least three weeks (see Candy go stir crazy). But I can probably fly home after I've had my one-week check up (and that's three huzzahs for the win).
And so on. I'm nothing if not thorough, and neither is he.
He pulled out a circulatory CT scan, so I could see how clearly the size of the blood vessels to each side of the abdomen show up.
"If you don't have a major vessel on each side, we'll have to do a TRAM instead of a DIEP on the side without," he explained. "It's not like we can wake you up to ask if that's okay, so we try to get as much information as we can beforehand."
Not keen on having my rectus abdominus spliced and resected on my chest, or on having my internal organs on that side restrained with mesh, I'm now praying for two whacking great arteries showing up so he can just use the fat to make my nearly-C-cups instead of messing with the muscle. There's even a chance (though a small one) that I won't have a major vessel on either side, in which case the operation becomes a double TRAM.
Looking at my (apparently minimal) stomach fat, he assessed the situation and then chose two implants of approximately the same volume. Opened a zippered kit, handed me an appropriately-sized bra and a flesh-coloured stretchy top.
"This will give you an approximation of the result, so you can judge whether you're likely to be happy with it or whether you want me to put implants in as well."
The result was surprising. I'd been fretting about having such a small chest after living with double-Ds or greater all my adult life. But I have to say, it looked good. It looked fine.
Not like mosquito bites.
No implants for me.
And so that's another bite of the reconstruction elephant taken care of. It's going to be a long journey; after the initial operation there's the six-week checkup, fat injections using liposuction if I'm suddenly unhappy with the size or shape, nipple construction surgery after three to six months, tattooing of the nipples...
...it's a fully-grown pachyderm on my plate.
One bite at a time, Candy... just as soon as I get over this damn cold and get my appetite back.
|It's a bit like how I got myself through treatment, really. Just diagnosed in this one.|
|Halfway through chemo and feeling like unholy crap in this one. Yeah, I look fine.|
That because I'd spent two hours at 'Look Good, Feel Better'.
|And, finally, on the other side... my birthday this year, two years to the day after the first photo.|
I did make it through. One. Bite. At. A. Time.